Comments on: What do you really want for your children? Week 3 http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/2006/05/04/what-do-you-really-want-for-your-children-week-3/ the writing life with extra crunchy bits Thu, 09 Feb 2012 11:50:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Anny http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/2006/05/04/what-do-you-really-want-for-your-children-week-3/comment-page-1/#comment-864 Anny Wed, 10 May 2006 20:28:00 +0000 http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/?p=280#comment-864 Amen! I too disagree with Dyer's notion that we should not treat children as apprentice people. <br/><br/>THEY ARE APPRENTICE PEOPLE...THAT'S WHY THEY NEED PARENTS IN THE FIRST PLACE!!!<br/><br/>Okay, I feel much better now. Glad to join the 'because I said so' choir ;0) Amen! I too disagree with Dyer’s notion that we should not treat children as apprentice people.

THEY ARE APPRENTICE PEOPLE…THAT’S WHY THEY NEED PARENTS IN THE FIRST PLACE!!!

Okay, I feel much better now. Glad to join the ‘because I said so’ choir ;0)

]]> By: eyeknit http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/2006/05/04/what-do-you-really-want-for-your-children-week-3/comment-page-1/#comment-849 eyeknit Mon, 08 May 2006 19:31:00 +0000 http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/?p=280#comment-849 I love Fred Rogers, and I love that song. I re-learned "You Are Special" just when I was pondering these same issues: how do we make our babies feel well-regarded, capable and loved? In short, when faced with most parenting choices (especially about how to word or describe things to children), I just ask myself, "How would Fred say it?" That usually suffices, at least until I have time to further ponder. <br/>Amy I love Fred Rogers, and I love that song. I re-learned “You Are Special” just when I was pondering these same issues: how do we make our babies feel well-regarded, capable and loved? In short, when faced with most parenting choices (especially about how to word or describe things to children), I just ask myself, “How would Fred say it?” That usually suffices, at least until I have time to further ponder.
Amy

]]> By: FRITZ http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/2006/05/04/what-do-you-really-want-for-your-children-week-3/comment-page-1/#comment-842 FRITZ Sat, 06 May 2006 13:21:00 +0000 http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/?p=280#comment-842 Why would Dyer equate 'teaching children they are valuable' with 'becoming valuable in certain terms to a parent'?<br/><br/>This is horrid. We are all valuable. Our worth does not change as we grow older or do silly things or make mistakes. This is what we should teach children, in my book. That no matter what, they must value themselves because they are valued. They are life.<br/><br/>Life is always valuable. Why would Dyer equate ‘teaching children they are valuable’ with ‘becoming valuable in certain terms to a parent’?

This is horrid. We are all valuable. Our worth does not change as we grow older or do silly things or make mistakes. This is what we should teach children, in my book. That no matter what, they must value themselves because they are valued. They are life.

Life is always valuable.

]]> By: gkgirl http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/2006/05/04/what-do-you-really-want-for-your-children-week-3/comment-page-1/#comment-837 gkgirl Fri, 05 May 2006 12:57:00 +0000 http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/?p=280#comment-837 heh.<br/><br/>my labels sound a lot<br/>like your labels...<br/>which is kind of funny,<br/>cause i haven't really run into <br/>many people that match my labels...<br/><br/>which was why one of my other "labels"<br/>(but from elementary school peers)<br/>was<br/>"weird".<br/><br/>and that one stuck.<br/>for a long time.<br/><br/>til i decided it was ok.<br/>i would sooned be "weird" and <br/>interesting...<br/>than normal and boring...<br/>heehee<br/><br/>and i think you have <br/>great insights into parenting<br/>i'm enjoying reading <br/>what you write about this...<br/>:) heh.

my labels sound a lot
like your labels…
which is kind of funny,
cause i haven’t really run into
many people that match my labels…

which was why one of my other “labels”
(but from elementary school peers)
was
“weird”.

and that one stuck.
for a long time.

til i decided it was ok.
i would sooned be “weird” and
interesting…
than normal and boring…
heehee

and i think you have
great insights into parenting
i’m enjoying reading
what you write about this…
:)

]]> By: kim http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/2006/05/04/what-do-you-really-want-for-your-children-week-3/comment-page-1/#comment-835 kim Fri, 05 May 2006 11:17:00 +0000 http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/?p=280#comment-835 Yes, Yes, Yes to all of it. You're writing is like a fix for my soul. <br/><br/>Now I've got that song stuck in my head. I have to go pass it on to my husband. Yes, Yes, Yes to all of it. You’re writing is like a fix for my soul.

Now I’ve got that song stuck in my head. I have to go pass it on to my husband.

]]> By: Lee http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/2006/05/04/what-do-you-really-want-for-your-children-week-3/comment-page-1/#comment-834 Lee Fri, 05 May 2006 08:20:00 +0000 http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/?p=280#comment-834 Consistency is the big thing. Let them know where the boundaries are and let them frolic, but within the boundaries. Consistency is the big thing. Let them know where the boundaries are and let them frolic, but within the boundaries.

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