Comments on: I thee wed http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/2006/07/28/i-thee-wed/ the writing life with extra crunchy bits Thu, 09 Feb 2012 11:50:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: sunbelt http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/2006/07/28/i-thee-wed/comment-page-1/#comment-1310 sunbelt Sun, 06 Aug 2006 21:04:00 +0000 http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/?p=338#comment-1310 appreciate your quick reference to same sex couples. I understand the signficance of ceremony. A friend of mine is a director for an adoption agency and she claims that couples, especially same sex couples, who have had some kind of marriage ceremony, will gain a better chance of adopting children. Putting aside the legal issues, a committment ceremony between two people solidifies the relationship. Kids need that, too. appreciate your quick reference to same sex couples. I understand the signficance of ceremony. A friend of mine is a director for an adoption agency and she claims that couples, especially same sex couples, who have had some kind of marriage ceremony, will gain a better chance of adopting children. Putting aside the legal issues, a committment ceremony between two people solidifies the relationship. Kids need that, too.

]]> By: kim http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/2006/07/28/i-thee-wed/comment-page-1/#comment-1297 kim Fri, 04 Aug 2006 20:48:00 +0000 http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/?p=338#comment-1297 I love ritual for the continuity and connectiveness. Weddings are an exercise in hope I love ritual for the continuity and connectiveness. Weddings are an exercise in hope

]]> By: karrie http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/2006/07/28/i-thee-wed/comment-page-1/#comment-1283 karrie Tue, 01 Aug 2006 20:04:00 +0000 http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/?p=338#comment-1283 We eloped. My husband is from Vegas, and while I drew the line at Elvis, a small, quickie wedding with a last-minute invite to a few friends in the area, worked well for us. We eloped. My husband is from Vegas, and while I drew the line at Elvis, a small, quickie wedding with a last-minute invite to a few friends in the area, worked well for us.

]]> By: krista http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/2006/07/28/i-thee-wed/comment-page-1/#comment-1282 krista Tue, 01 Aug 2006 17:08:00 +0000 http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/?p=338#comment-1282 It makes me smile to picture you, watching your sister get married, hearing the vows, and marrying Ed all over again in your heart. <br/><br/>I've attended two weddings since being married myself. <br/><br/>I do exactly the same thing. <br/><br/>Hope the wedding is spectacular. It makes me smile to picture you, watching your sister get married, hearing the vows, and marrying Ed all over again in your heart.

I’ve attended two weddings since being married myself.

I do exactly the same thing.

Hope the wedding is spectacular.

]]> By: Madeleine http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/2006/07/28/i-thee-wed/comment-page-1/#comment-1281 Madeleine Sun, 30 Jul 2006 22:55:00 +0000 http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/?p=338#comment-1281 hello. i found you via gkgirl. (actually it was the comment on having to remove yourself from your navel that got me :) )<br/><br/>when i got married, some 12 years ago, it was under duress. i didn't feel a need to marry but towed the line and did (we already had a child and it was considered inappropriate)<br/>now however, i am divorced,(there's a surprise) but if i were ever to be in this situation again, i think that i would really want to get married. the significance and symbollism of a wedding to me now,seems much <br/>more important.<br/>as you say....the exchange of words and the heart are the very point of this ceremony.<br/>when i go to weddings these days i only wish that i had understood and felt these things before.<br/><br/>i really enjoyed reading this. hello. i found you via gkgirl. (actually it was the comment on having to remove yourself from your navel that got me :) )

when i got married, some 12 years ago, it was under duress. i didn’t feel a need to marry but towed the line and did (we already had a child and it was considered inappropriate)
now however, i am divorced,(there’s a surprise) but if i were ever to be in this situation again, i think that i would really want to get married. the significance and symbollism of a wedding to me now,seems much
more important.
as you say….the exchange of words and the heart are the very point of this ceremony.
when i go to weddings these days i only wish that i had understood and felt these things before.

i really enjoyed reading this.

]]> By: Custancia http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/2006/07/28/i-thee-wed/comment-page-1/#comment-1280 Custancia Sun, 30 Jul 2006 18:42:00 +0000 http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/?p=338#comment-1280 I hope the wedding was beautiful. As is the sentiment of your post. Thank you for sharing this I hope the wedding was beautiful. As is the sentiment of your post. Thank you for sharing this

]]> By: alimum http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/2006/07/28/i-thee-wed/comment-page-1/#comment-1279 alimum Sat, 29 Jul 2006 19:44:00 +0000 http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/?p=338#comment-1279 What a lovely post. What a lovely post.

]]> By: chelle http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/2006/07/28/i-thee-wed/comment-page-1/#comment-1278 chelle Sat, 29 Jul 2006 14:28:00 +0000 http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/?p=338#comment-1278 awwwww I love the statement that you will marry Ed again today!!!! So sweet!!! awwwww I love the statement that you will marry Ed again today!!!! So sweet!!!

]]> By: Kristin http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/2006/07/28/i-thee-wed/comment-page-1/#comment-1277 Kristin Sat, 29 Jul 2006 03:17:00 +0000 http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/?p=338#comment-1277 What a beautiful and provocative post. You made me reconsider what I think about marriage, and thank you for that. What a beautiful and provocative post. You made me reconsider what I think about marriage, and thank you for that.

]]> By: gkgirl http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/2006/07/28/i-thee-wed/comment-page-1/#comment-1276 gkgirl Sat, 29 Jul 2006 00:35:00 +0000 http://www.francescaamendolia.com/blog/?p=338#comment-1276 i am interested in what you say,<br/>as i always am.<br/><br/>you make me think...<br/>sometimes this is a good thing,<br/>sometimes, not so much,<br/>heh.<br/><br/>when i consider why i chose to wed,<br/>especially given my lack of <br/>belief or patience with organized <br/>religion...<br/>all i can say is<br/>romaniticism won out over <br/>the fear of being too conservative,<br/>too led, too hypocritical...<br/><br/>and tomorrow as we attend the<br/>wedding we are going to,<br/>i will keep the ideas you <br/>expressed here close...<br/>and ponder them...<br/>between my tears<br/>(heh. i am the loser that <br/>always cries at weddings if<br/>nothing else)<br/>:) i am interested in what you say,
as i always am.

you make me think…
sometimes this is a good thing,
sometimes, not so much,
heh.

when i consider why i chose to wed,
especially given my lack of
belief or patience with organized
religion…
all i can say is
romaniticism won out over
the fear of being too conservative,
too led, too hypocritical…

and tomorrow as we attend the
wedding we are going to,
i will keep the ideas you
expressed here close…
and ponder them…
between my tears
(heh. i am the loser that
always cries at weddings if
nothing else)
:)

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