Hot! Hot! Hot!
(Said the mother to the child reaching for the boiling kettle.)
Of course, hot also is what you say about the gorgeous Rachael from Crankmama who is putting the ay ay ay hootchie back into the mama:
While motherhood is sexual, it is not always sexy. We expend our energy in the care of our young. We inhabit bodies sometimes marked (sometimes very marked) by our transition from ripe peaches of fertile girlhood to blooming pomegranates of post-procreative motherhood. Yet most of us (once the leaking, bleeding, oozing and sobbing stage is past) aren’t ready to toss ourselves like used tissues onto a postsexual dustheap. We are not ready to stand granny-panted and unpanting, smiling our serene smiles of patient, tolerant mother-love. We who refused to be defined by our marital status, our age, our weight, our hair-color or breast-size also refuse to inhabit some cold, twin-bedded state of absolutely post-coital June Cleaver-dom. Although mothers may smile asexually and purely from every corner of our culture’s literature, television and art, we know that mother is a job description, not a definition. We remain women, people, with ideas, urges, lusts and longings.
So wherefore MILF, then?
MILF is an acronym for Mother I’d Like to Fuck, made popular (invented?) in the 1999 film American Pie (which also featured a boy having sex with an apple pie). It can apparently mean just that, or (strangely) can mean any older woman worth (ha!) having it off with.
Compliment or not? Something to aspire to?
JOIN THE DISCUSSION when Rachael of Crankmama and I discuss the MILF madness on Kristen’ s (Motherhood Uncensored) radio programme… whenever it gets rescheduled. Sorry about that.
To add your two cents, call (646)915-8634 and let ‘er rip.
Or to just listen in, go here, or go to ITunes, Podcasts and search for Motherhood Uncensored (although you’ll have to subscribe to the podcast to listen).
And after you’re through admiring Rachael here, you can see me over at her blog attempting to put the come hither back into sorting laundry at 11 at night. And definitely plan to tune in.
I’m going to remember that: “motherhood is a job description, not a definition”. Great point.
I will attempt to learn the mysteries of podcasts before tomorrow so that I may listen in.
I tagged you on the six weird things meme.
Oh good! I thought it was last night and I fell asleep.
Rachael–I’m having difficulty registering to post on CM. Is there an obvious trick or link I may have missed? I logged in to WP when the comment field redirected there but no luck.
The term MILF is a lot older than that, I am certain.
I’ll try to call in.
Stunts… this is an absolutely BRILLIANT post!!
“blooming pomegranates of post-procreative motherhood”???
Genius!
Here’s a question: why is it that though the idea of feminism is to appreciate qualities of all women,no matter their status, I still feel like I don’t belong among ‘real’ women because I don’t have a child?
While I agree women shouldn’t be judged only as mothers, I don’t think they should be judged because they are NOT mothers. But when was the last time someone DIDN’T ask me, “How many children do you have?”
I’m not qualified through children, whether I have them or not.
Wow, I now see mommybloggers in a whole new light!